Korrin Torres once pursued perfection and had her dream job at Fox Sports. Through the experience of life, she has embraced the person that she is, life on the road with her husband Nick and growing her brand “The Baseball Gypsy.” Torres joined us for a Q&A session to discuss the baseball gypsy life, her brand and more.
CC: How has being from a small town helped to keep you grounded during the whirlwinds of your journey?
KT: “I hated growing up in a small town. I was the person that couldn’t wait to get “out” and did exactly that the first opportunity I had. One of the most important lessons I’ve learned from being that person years ago, is how much I overlooked just because I was too busy looking too far ahead. I thought there was so much more outside of my town, something better I was trying to chase down. Being young at the time, I had to learn that no matter where you go there are challenges you have to face and relationships you have to tend to. At the time, I overlooked some of the people in my life and how amazing they are. I had to leave to figure out how hard it can be to find good, honest people in the world. It’s also hard to find people that know me and all my flaws but choose to love me. It’s a daily reminder that in each random, little town we move to there are genuine, kind, hard-working people who can teach you things you don’t already know. It’s easy to move to these places and have the mindset of, “we aren’t here for long”. I’ve challenged myself to dig into “why” we are placed in the places we go to and some amazing relationships have formed just because I was able to be in the moment. Now, looking back I feel extremely grateful that I had the opportunity to be raised in a small town. I’m very proud of the people I was raised with and the people I was raised by.”
What have been your favorite memories so far?
“We officially have one year of traveling together under our belt. That puts a smile on my face! It’s difficult to put into words how hard it was to do distance for over 4 years. Some of my favorite memories are just the fact that I am making memories with Nick. So many important moments in our lives were spent apart from each other during distance and naturally, that was hard on the heart. Having a full year together to celebrate birthdays, anniversaries, and all of the highs and lows life brings has been extremely special to me. Other than that, I have some memories I know I will love for the rest of my life. We sleep on an air mattress and drive state to state with a car full of belongings. We learned how little you can actually live with and still experience genuine happiness. Our first year traveling together was the most we’ve seen our relationship grow out of all the years combined. We are pretty thankful for that.”
As you and Nick have moved forward, has the lifestyle and its challenges become easier to manage?
“Absolutely. I don’t think the challenges have changed but Nick and I are completely different people than when we started this journey. That has made everything about this lifestyle more manageable. I think part of that is just growing and maturing. We are so much stronger in our faith. Because of that, we are able to let go of the things we were letting consume us in the past. We were constantly letting fear and the unknown control our lives, and there is a lot of unknowns in baseball. We have stopped trying to control things that are out of our control, like where we go for the season. We have also learned how to pour our hearts into the opportunities we are given. For Nick, that’s baseball and coaching. For me, it’s The Baseball Gypsy and my students I get to teach online. We know that we can’t control the outcome but we can work hard and be proud of putting our blood, sweat, and tears into these opportunities. Over the years we have been able to learn from some mistakes; which has really formed us into who we want to be as individuals and as a couple.
I have also become obsessed with authenticity. When Nick first started playing I felt a bizarre pressure to try and be “perfect”. Sometimes in this lifestyle, the women are made out to be “less than” because baseball players can be put on such a pedestal. Sometimes, no matter what we do we are made out to be “undeserving” of the man we are with. Because of this, I felt like I had to make my life sparkle. I felt the need to portray my life and relationship in a perfect way to feel like I was enough. I made my career my identity because I felt like without my fancy job title people would view me as inferior to Nick. It took a long time, and a lot of amazing people to help me realize that perfect doesn’t exist. Over the years I’ve had to learn that being authentic is so much more attractive than perfection and my identity was so much greater than my job. This also allowed me to have the courage to admit how miserable I really was being away from Nick while working the job I had. I was then faced with the opportunity to go after genuine happiness. I quit my job, committed to traveling with Nick and started The Baseball Gypsy. Choosing authenticity over perfection has allowed me to connect with so many people because they see a real person and a real story. I hear so many times that Nick and I are relatable and that means so much more to me than being “goals.”
If you were to write a letter to your younger self about what you know now, what would you write?
“Well, this could be an entire book! I touched on that briefly above but I would tell myself that my brokenness was welcomed. I spent a lot of time hiding the pieces of my life that were messy because I thought they ruined the “perfect image” I was trying to uphold. I’d tell myself that my mistakes don’t define who I am and the “broken” pieces aren’t pieces to be ashamed of but pathways to connecting with so many other people. I would tell myself that looking too far ahead will burn bridges that I’ll later regret. The grass that looks greener on the “other side” is usually the same exact grass and running from place to place, always wanting more is a miserable life to live. I’d tell myself to be still. My Mom said that to me a million times and I never understood it. Now I do and it’s changed my life. I’d tell my younger self that it means to quiet my mind and stop trying to control everything. So many times, I’ve let my emotions take the lead. The women I admire are women who are strong, but slow to speak. Women who are graceful in painful situations. I’d tell myself life doesn’t necessarily get easier. Graduating high school, getting out of my small town or getting the dream job never solved all of life’s issues like the younger me thought it would. I’d tell myself the sooner I figured out perfection doesn’t exist the sooner I could be myself, and that is surely enough.”
You’ve used your experiences at Fox Sports and Oregon State University, to create your own brand The Baseball Gypsy. Was it difficult for you both to open the door to your lives for the public to see?
“We want to share the parts of our life that we think will encourage others. Even though you see a lot of what we do and who we are, there is still so much of our lives that we keep private. We definitely understand that we share more than some people do, but I would like to think that what we share is trying to break through the norm of what social media is these days. You see a lot of picture perfect moments and beautifully edited pictures. By throwing ourselves on YouTube our goal is to show people we are just a normal couple living a bit of a unique life. We want people to see the reality of this chapter in professional baseball. We want people to see it’s not what you see on TV, and that’s ok. We want to connect with people because they feel like they can relate to us. We want people to see some of the challenges we face while chasing these dreams so they know that it’s like any other journey in life. There are unknowns and heartache as well as triumph and a whole lot of love. We are encouraged by the response we’ve received over this past year and it has been the reason we have continued this journey. We are happy to keep sharing our journey if we are helping even one person along the way.”
You’ve given people a glimpse into your lives and a taste of the minor league lifestyle. How do you see The Baseball Gypsy evolving in the future?
“I want The Baseball Gypsy to be a place for the dreamers and the do-ers. I hope this is a place where people can see our journey and it encourages them to go after their dreams no matter how far away they may seem. I want people to forget about their age, how much money they have, or how many people doubt them. Nick and I don’t have it all figured out but one thing I’m sure of is how hard we work. We both know that if something in our life doesn’t go as planned, it won’t be for a lack of work ethic. I can’t say I know exactly where all of this will go but in a short year, we have already seen some amazing opportunities appear. I have another big launch happening on March 1st and I’m excited to see where The Baseball Gypsy will go from there.”
Any advice for women in baseball that are considering starting a website like yours or are struggling with the lifestyle?
“Just go for it. Don’t talk yourself out of doing something you are passionate about because you are worried about what people will think or how well it will do. You have to make the best of this lifestyle in your own way. For me it’s staying busy, meeting new people, telling our story and self-teaching myself how to do all of this every day. There are so many options for women in this industry. They just have to be willing to go for what they are passionate about. You have to be willing to put the work and time in. Since I make next to nothing, I don’t do it for the money. I do it because I believe in what we are doing and I truly feel like it was put on my heart to pursue. I have a paying job that allows me to work from anywhere on top of The Baseball Gypsy to help pay our bills. Anything like this takes time to really go anywhere so be patient, consistent and whatever you do DON’T give up.”